Babies. A talk that should happen before they are conceived, but rarely does. Babies are a lot of work, but people spend most of their time preparing for the baby instead of being parents. Parenting is for life, yet it’s usually not taken as seriously as it should be.
So, here’s something I found while scrolling on FB. Sadly, many women get stuck with the responsibility of waking up in the middle of the night, taking off work when the child is sick, or cannot make a previous commitment if there is a problem with the babysitter. However, the notion of postpartum depression is glossed over or undetected b/c the father doesn’t know what to look for or isn’t around to care.
If you take a look at the chart, you’ll see a distinct difference in these two conversations. One conversation touches the surface of having a baby while the other conversation deals with the long-term effects of parenthood. Now, let’s not forget. A new baby is a huge adjustment in anyone’s household whether it’s the first child or the fifth child.
However, the best thing to do when baby talk is on the table… is to discuss the things that really matter, so that the baby doesn’t pick up on the anxiety or depression when they enter this world. The world is already cruel enough, so let’s begin to take a bit more time discussing the things we should discuss about baby instead of what’s on the surface.
As we all know, parenting and babies are a lot of work. That doesn’t change simply b/c the baby is here now, things just shift. So, a little reminder to discuss it ALL before things get REAL. Sure making a baby is fun, but let’s not forget the responsibility of raising one. If you are gonna have fun, be there for the responsibility too. ❤