While the world is under stress as a whole, let’s not forget that children can be stressed and anxious as well and it may manifest as other emotions b/c they don’t have the verbiage to express themselves like adults or they don’t know what they are feeling themselves.
Let’s me say that when I am feeling any other emotion, the first thing that I express is anger. Why? B/c it’s the easiest emotion to express and the older I get, the more I realize that it’s not healthy to always express anger. I’m definitely a work in progress. But for children, anger and even defiance is always the easiest emotion and action to express rather than being hurt, sad, vulnerable, etc.
Let’s not forget that when people don’t express things, they manifest as something different and doesn’t necessarily go away. More on that here. Also, remember that these emotions and actions can be true of adults as well. Sometimes, adults don’t have the answers for what they are feeling and why, so be kind and patient with the little ones. This is a trying time for us all.
Finally, it’s hard to teach a child to express themselves and to use their words, when the adults that are teaching them don’t model the same behavior. Not trying to step on toes here, but it’s a fact. You can’t teach what you don’t know. So, if you have trouble with expressing yourself, there’s no shame in that. Just know that you couldn’t be taught by the person who raised you, but it’s never too late to learn and break that cycle.
There are many ways to express yourself, if a face-to-face conversation is too much at first. You can write a letter. You can send a voice message. You can email. You can practice having that conversation with someone you trust. You can make a video. You can draw. You can write out a story using the same situation. Don’t get me wrong, having tough conversations are difficult, but they must be done. It’s really a matter of finding another way to do it, as long as you do it! Communication is Key! ❤