When it comes to children, they are the most vulnerable population especially during the times when they can’t speak up for themselves. In a world full of creeps, pedophiles, and kidnappers we have to ensure we share with our children how important it is to protect their bodies, purity, and innocence.
Of course, they can’t protect themselves in the literal sense. I mean, protect themselves in that they understand that their private parts are not to be touched by the priest, coach, best friend’s father/mother, babysitter, daddy/mommy, Uncle, Cousin, Aunt, or Big Sister/Brother.
Have you ever heard of the PANTS Rule? I’ve never heard of it before, but I thought it was a cool way to teach your children about their permission and their bodies being theirs to control.
P– Private parts are private. Nobody is permitted to touch down there.
A– Always remember, your body is yours and only yours. You make the rules.
N– No means NO! Don’t give into pressure.
T– There are no secrets from mommy or daddy. If anyone tries anything, always tell mommy or another adult immediately.
S– SAY something so mommy can DO something about it.
This is extremely important to keep the lines of communication open between you and your children. I hear parents telling their kids “I don’t care” or “shut up” or “I don’t want to hear that” all the time and it’s really disheartening. The sadness on their faces when they aren’t heard or listened to is evident.
Those parents don’t realize that their children will never open up to them if something major happens to them, if they keep up this attitude. Why would they? The parent already has proved that they don’t care what their child has to say. The child has already started to internalize it.
The child is already thinking, “If mommy said she doesn’t care about the my teacher’s dress color today, why tell mommy about when Uncle Ted hit me? She doesn’t care.” I know that’s just an example, but I think you get the point. If you don’t listen to the little things, then they won’t share the big things.
To take it a step further, if you don’t listen to them when they are young… you can forget about talking to them when they are teenagers. Remember this post? The mother was desperate to reach out to her teenage daughter and started a journal to open the lines of communication.
In closing, I’m not trying to tell you how to raise your children. I just want to let you know that teaching them about their bodies being theirs to control and to keep the lines of communication open when they are young is important. Of course, this leans into a larger conversation about consent, but that’s another post for another day. ❤