It’s a rare occasion that we hear a man speak on women’s issues. Hahaha! Just kidding. Didn’t we have a group of white men abolish abortions in Alabama a while back? But, I digress.
Seriously, we rarely have a man speak up for how hard a woman works when it comes to breastfeeding a baby. I love what this man did for his woman and his child. He spoke up on what he, as a man, can do to make it easier for HER!!
I posted about breastfeeding before, post here if you missed it. Where I spoke about how people want to sexualize the breast and how it was made for food and nourishment way before being sexualized. I digress again.
Here’s what Mr. Muhammed Nitoto had to say and I applaud him for saying this b/c breastfeeding isn’t easy by any means, but it’s definitely worth it! Note: I had to change some things to make it legible, but they are his words.
Last Month was Breastfeeding Awareness Month. So, I figured I’d drop some knowledge on my fellow dads and soon to be dads. Here’s what it looks like for the first few weeks or months after your child is born.
Yup! If mom breastfeeds, they pretty much are tucked like this and at times you’ll wonder “What is there for me to do?”
Here are my Top 5 tips for any dad, after your child is born:
1. For night feedings: When mom wakes up in the middle of the night, you get up and ask if she needs any help or water. The truth is most of the time she will say no but just the fact that you offered will go far.
2. Ask mom if she can pump and then pick 1 feeding that you will always do. Mom will take on almost everything and will burn herself out, if you let her. At times, you may have to force her to rest without worrying about the baby. This is an easy way to do that without a fight.
3. Don’t put a time limit on how long mom breastfeeds the baby. It’s not just about feeding your child. It’s about them bonding as well. I know everyone has a different length of time they will breastfeed and as a dad, it’s hard to fully understand.
Do not, I repeat DO NOT, try to rush this process!!!
It’s not our place and it’s not safe. You will open yourself up to a fight you can’t win.
4. Be patient. I know as a dad, the first few weeks we are equally excited, and yet not as important. Yet, your time will come faster than you know. Babies grow fast! The stronger and bigger they get, the more “Daddy Time” will be coming your way.
5. Paternity leave! If you have it TAKE IT. The early stages of a child’s life are not just for moms to enjoy. I know as men, making the money is important, especially after having a baby, but trust me… you can always make money. There are no instant replays in life. It doesn’t make you more of a man to not take the leave. It’s equally as important that you, as a dad, get to be a part of the early development of your child’s life as well.
Breastfeeding should be as normal as when adults eat. It is a woman literally feeding a baby and using a part of her body to do it. I don’t know when it became nasty to feed a baby in public, but some of y’all that have a problem with this need to get over yourselves. It ain’t that deep.
If this Senator Mom can breastfeed her 8-month-old while arguing against a bill in Congress or wherever she was, then you can certainly get over the fact that a mom needs to feed her hungry, crying baby to have some peace.