Babies and children are expensive. We all know that. There’s milk/formula, diapers, toys, healthcare, daycare, clothes, shoes, school supplies, miscellaneous money, extracurricular activities, food, strollers, furniture, parties… you get the picture. 👶🏾

We also know that it technically takes a mother’s egg and father’s sperm to have a baby, which means both parties are responsible for the child. Sometimes, one parent refuses to be actively involved in the child’s life. This is why we have a child support enforcement system. 

Imagine having a 50-year-old daughter and one day having a weird thought that you are owed some money from her absentee father, your ex-husband. Well, this mother took that thought ran with it… to court. Article here.

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Story Recap:

A North San Diego County woman, Toni Anderson, was awarded child support from her ex-husband nearly 50 years after she says he left her with a young daughter. 

Toni stated that her ex-husband chose to go to Canada instead of paying child support for their then 3-year-old daughter back in the 1970s.

According to the article, “I kind of put it on the back burner and just kind of forgot about it over the years… I’m not negating the fact I was able to send my daughter to college, Paris. We traveled and had a good time. But the money runs out.”

Since retiring, Toni says that money is tight. One night, she realized that there’s no statute of limitations on child support, at least in California. Her ex-husband was supposed to pay $160 back in the 70s, but today, it’s much more than that. 

According to the article, “With [the] accrued interest of 10 percent a year, what would have been a total payment of some $30,000 is now more than $170,000.”

She notified her ex-husband, who now lives in Oregon that she wanted him to pay up. “I think he’s a little bit panicked… And I’m very happy because I was panicked all these years. Now, it’s his turn.”

Ms. Anderson won a settlement of $150,000 during the private hearing in Vista Court on Wednesday.

A Rant in my Spirit:

downloadLet me first say, “Hahahahahahahahahaha! Got ‘eeeeem!” 😂😂😂

Brad thought he got away scot-free without caring for his child, but little did he know… that money is still owed and it will be collected! 

Now, it can be given willfully or they can garnish your paychecks, refunds, or whatever… but you are going to pay!

See, your money is going bye, bye! 💸💸

I definitely applaud Toni for realizing that she was still entitled to her money regardless of how old their daughter is now. More guys should beware! 👀

This is a harrowing tale of how your past will still catch up to you. No matter how long it takes, how far you run, or where you live. The only way to move forward is to face it! 

A Word of Advice

download (1)I think a lesson can be learned here if you find yourself in this situation or something like it.

Check to see what the statute of limitations says in your state, re: child support. You could be entitled to some cold, hard cash! 💲💲

No, it’s not selfish to go after what belongs to you and your child. In this case, she was married to Tyler and he left them. He chose to be selfish. 

It takes two people to make a baby and just b/c the male half left doesn’t mean he’s relieved of his responsibility to that child… unless he terminates his rights.

Even tho money will never take the place of physical and emotional presence in a child’s life, hopefully, you can still be financially compensated.

Children are expensive and that will never change, at least now here’s a tip that won’t have the financial burden fall completely on you.