Therapy… is an amazing thing! It’s a great way to treat yourself, as in a form of self-care. It shows you many things about yourself and prepares you to embrace your future self. I mean, it’s really amazing to watch yourself transform.
I think the sad part about addressing mental health and going to therapy is that many people don’t give it enough credit nor take a chance on it.
Why? B/c they don’t think it helps them or they think it’s a bunch of bullshit.
Truth is… therapy has a negative connotation and a negative stigma surrounding it probably b/c of the people who are most likely to be treated by therapists. It’s a shame, but many people miss the point of therapy b/c it’s so much more than that.
It allows you to really get to the bottom of some deep-rooted/childhood issues, it promotes self-reflection and awareness, it validates your feelings and emotions, it promotes personal and interpersonal growth, and finally, it checks anything that seems mentally or psychologically unhealthy.
A Form of Self-care:
Listen, therapy is not a dirty word. It’s not taboo. It’s not only for rich people. It’s not only for “crazy” people. It’s not only for one race of people. Therapy is for any- and everyone that wants help dealing with the pressures of life.
As we all feel, at one time or another, that life can be hard at times. Whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or psychologically… we all experience tough times. The good thing is that we don’t have to experience it alone b/c we’re not meant to.
Imagine having to deal with complex issues such as grief and loss, anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, stress, discrimination, racism, suicidal thoughts, interpersonal relationships, PTSD, substance abuse, alcoholism, child abuse, sexual abuse, domestic abuse, etc… all alone.
You’d run yourself ragged b/c you’re not meant to deal with them alone. Sure, there’s self-medicating and denial, which plays a prominent role in helping you believe that you’re okay when you’re really not.
But imagine healing, coping, and moving forward with your life instead of feeling stuck in an endless cycle. That’s what therapy is about! Helping you see that seeking help isn’t a bad thing, it’s a necessary thing… for growth.
I knew without a doubt that I needed to go to therapy. I mean, for about 1.5 years before I actually went. There were many signs and synchronicities that I saw, heard, and realized that helped me see that therapy was needed.
One day, I couldn’t ignore them anymore. I went b/c I was dealing with a lot of work stress, school stress, grief and loss, insomnia, headaches, and anger. I was possibly depressed as well. I started going to therapy on November 28, 2018.
I listen to podcasts all day, every day. I had heard about 3-4 different podcasts talk about how good therapy is and how it’s helping them navigate through life. They talked about it on The Read, Jesus & Jollof, Small Doses with Amanda Seales, Podcast Fandom… I mean, it was on everything I listened to!
A podcast (I can’t remember which one 🤦🏾♀️) mentioned the Therapy for Black Girls website, link here, and I went to look around. Oddly enough, I noticed that they had a list of black men and women therapists in each state on their site, list here. Bingo!! I mean, it really was a no brainer! That was the day that I started my journey to healing and becoming a better me.
About a month ago, I had a friend ask me why I get excited about going to therapy. I explained to her how helpful therapy has been for me thus far and how my therapist gets it, she gets me. She understands. I mean, it’s really a beautiful thing! 😊
She said she thought about going to therapy many times, but never went beyond thinking about it. I said listen, Hermione… don’t go b/c I love to go. Don’t go b/c I sing its praises. Don’t go b/c of me at all.
I said if/when you do decide to go to therapy, do it b/c you want to. Always have your own reasons for going and do it in your own time.
I said, but I will say this… make sure:
- You’re ready to do the work.
- You want to heal.
- You’re ready to change.
- You’re ready to face issues you didn’t know was there.
- You feel you’re ready.
- You don’t want your past to affect your future.
- You don’t want your children to carry your trauma/faults into their lives.
Don’t ever feel like you have to go b/c someone said you have to. Yes, there are exceptions, but you really can’t make anyone do anything unless they’re minors 😏. Hell, and even then… you might have some trouble 🙃😉.
The point of this post isn’t to shame anyone into going to therapy or shame anyone who doesn’t believe in it.
The point of this post is to highlight the purpose of therapy, inform those who are opposed or on the fence about it, and to show that it does more than what you may think.
Therapy is about:
- Finding happiness within.
- Doing the work to become a better you.
- Breaking generational curses.
- Solutions and resolutions.
- The building of self, as in:
Taking care of your mental health is a good thing! There are so many benefits when you attend therapy on a regular basis. If more people were to seek help, it would help the world become a better place.