Becoming a mother is a beautiful thing! Working while pregnant is something that most women do for various reasons: money, health insurance, and being independent.

What’s even better is the maternity leave, which is time away from work after the baby arrives. It allows the mother time to heal from the birth, time to bond with their babies, and time to adjust to a new way of life with a newborn.

On the other hand, it’s very rare that fathers are allowed that same time away from work, with pay, to bond with their new baby. According to the article, “Less than 1 in 5 men in the U.S. are offered any paid paternity leave.” Story here.

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Well, Dove stepped in to help change that. They are offering fathers the chance to take some time off to enjoy their newborns by providing them with an opportunity to apply for a $5,000 grant b/c “fathers shouldn’t have to choose between their families and a paycheck.” I agree that they shouldn’t have to choose.

Having a baby is a huge adjustment for everyone in the home. However, it’s more common for mothers to have time off. But let’s be honest, it’s not all roses for mothers either.

Issues with Maternity Leave:

downloadWhile I am not crapping on the fact that fathers need the time off, I think we really need to address the fact that women are still having a relatively rough time with the stipulations and rigidity of maternity leave.

In most cases, the time off doesn’t always equate to it being paid time off. Sometimes, mothers have to use their personal leave to cover their time away from work. 

If they don’t have enough personal leave to cover them, then they have to either sign up for short-term disability, which allows them to get a percentage of their regular paychecks, or they have to take the leave without pay status. I mean, they still have bills to pay, so how is that helpful?

Let’s not even get into the fact that women are subjected to more flack for taking the time off and can even be scrutinized or penalized for it as well depending on their workplace, coworkers, and career choices.

Let’s not talk about the rough time of returning back to work or even not being given enough time off, to begin with. I mean, 3 months or 12 weeks, is barely enough time to scratch the surface of bonding with a baby or being comfortable with being away from them before its time to return back to work.

Hello, they aren’t even old enough to talk yet! Let’s not discuss how many nannies and daycares have their own issues with children ending up abused, hurt, or worse. 

Let’s not ignore the fact that other countries give women PAID time off and more of it due to their outlook on mothers and babies as a whole. I mean, the family unit is not to be taken for granted, but instead praised, b/c that’s what keeps people more invested in other areas of their lives… mainly their careers! 

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UGH! *rolls eyes* American ways sometimes grate my nerves! :/

Final Thoughts:

download (1)Yes, both parents should have the same time off, with pay, to bond with their newborns. However, just b/c mothers automatically get the time off doesn’t mean it’s all flowers, rainbows, butterflies, and unicorns. 

I think mothers should be allowed a minimum of 12 months of PAID time off from work, without having to use most or all of their own leave. Fathers should be allowed a minimum of three (3) months off of work. 

With this new balance, mothers are more comfortable with leaving their children in daycare or with family without feeling rushed, unprepared, or distracted. Fathers are able to adjust their lives as well. Everyone can fully focus on work while at work, which can lead to more productivity. 🙂 

Spending time with family is everything! ❤